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Signs I Need Couples Therapy or

Marriage Counseling


Signs You May Need Couples Therapy:

  • Lack of physical or emotional intimacy

  • You suspect or know there's been infidelity

  • Drifting apart

  • Frequent and unresolved arguments

  • Poor communication

  • Hostile language, yelling, name calling

  • Frequent avoidance to discuss ongoing issues

  • Feel overly criticized or put down

  • You feel stuck in unhealthy patterns

  • Walking on eggshells

  • You feel lonely

  • Excessive jealousy

  • Controlling behaviors

  • Dishonesty


What Research Says

 About Successful Couples:

  • “Failure to repair the inevitable conflicts and disconnection that all couples face “is the leading cause of unhappy couples and relationship failure.” (Dr. John Gottman, PhD.)


  • You can predict the healthiness of a relationship based on the “ratio of positive-to-negative emotions expressed during a conflict." 

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Can Couples Counseling 

Help Us?

  • YES-“Clients reported marked improvement in work productivity, co-worker relationships, family relationships, partner relationships, emotional health, overall health, social life, and community involvement.” (AAMFT)

  • Over 75% report an improvement in their relationship after participating in Couples Therapy with a Marriage & Family Therapist-MFT

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Lisa Conn Akoni, MA, MFT

Marriage & Family Therapist,

Clinical Program Developer, Consultant,

Trainer & Supervisor

(805) 714-4055

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