MY APPROACH

Creative Counseling & Consulting

Lisa Conn Akoni, MA, MFT

Santa Barbara Marriage & Family Therapist

WHAT I BELIEVE

I believe true happiness, change & growth require taking risks...having the courage to be our genuine self in front of others...even when we are afraid.

WHY IS IT SO HARD?

Genuineness requires us to be vulnerable which can be quite uncomfortable. We are taught early on to hide our true selves from others so we won't get hurt, judged, ridiculed, rejected, experience failure etc.

 

Over time and after years of covering up, suppressing, pleasing others, being paralyzed by the fear of rejection & failure or denying who we are and what we want, we forget who we really are and get lost...believe me, I've been there!

Vulnerability is not weakness...it is the vital component in human strength. It is actually what makes us resilient and allows us to truly be seen, connect with others, feel loved and see our worth!

MY STYLE

I am open-minded, straightforward & genuine...so no tricks or surprises in our counseling sessions.  Building a candid non-judgmental relationship with your therapist is vital & therapy should be as transparent as possible. I see counseling as a collaborative temporary partnership vs a long term "patient/therapist" process.

YOU CAN'T CHANGE YOUR PAST...BUT YOU CAN CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK ABOUT IT!

 

I practice a non-traditional counseling model, where our focus will be on the "HERE & NOW". We will explore how your perception of the past  influences your present & future. Your past does not have to define you or doom your future. In short, the idea is to reduce dwelling on your past or worrying about your future so you can work on the things you actually have control over in the moment.

We will look at the thoughts and beliefs which may be holding you back and will create a new narrative...a narrative that is true to you NOW, not your past. Then we can work together to create that fulfilled and purposeful life!

WHO I AM

I cannot inspire in others what I am not willing to do myself!"

 

As a self-proclaimed optimistic-realist and forever nonconformist, I take a somewhat nontraditional approach to life and counseling. Transparency, direct communication, vulnerability and genuineness are at the core of what I aspire to live by, both personally and professionally.

 

Easy enough concepts to understand...not so easy to follow on a regular basis. Some days I walk effortlessly in these and other days I do not. Yes...even therapists stumble through life just like everyone else and I am no exception. I do however "practice what I preach", and practicing these concepts do make my life easier, more fulfilled, balanced, resilient, happier etc...all that good stuff.

THERAPY CAN HELP

Therapy can be effective...especially when you find a good fit with your counselor and you are motivated to change!

 

Whether you are struggling with:

  • RELATIONSHIP ISSUES

  • TEEN ISSUES

  • PERSONAL GROWTH

  • GRIEF or LOSS

  • DATING PROBLEMS

 

It is important that you feel comfortable enough to be your "genuine self" with me. Although I am non-judgmental, empathetic, open-minded, and provide a "safe space" in our counseling sessions...my candid, transparent and down-to-earth therapy style may not be for everyone. For this reason I focus on making sure we are a good fit before moving forward with any in depth counseling and offer a free 15 minute consultation.

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Creative Counseling & Consulting

Lisa Conn Akoni, MA, MFT

Santa Barbara Marriage & Family Therapist

Clinical Program Developer, Consultant, Trainer & Supervisor

(805) 714-4055

LisaConnAkoni@gmail.com